April 3 2017 Week 14 Monday

Don't worry about finding your soul mate. Find yourself.

欲寻佳侣，先觅本心。

You may fail to find your soul mate if you can't find yourself.

Because only if you have found yourself, that is, you know truly who you are, you know truly what you want, then you may have a deeper understanding about what type of person that fit you the best, and you may have a clearer conception about what traits your ideal soul mate may have.

Many tragedies in relationships are resulted from mutual misunderstanding, in other words, both may fail to know deeply about the other side, just as we have said, they didn't know who they were and what they wanted.

However, that really needs time to try to recognize oneself and make continuous introspection, moreover, maybe it would better if there are enough feedbacks from others through comments, praisements, criticisms on our talks and behaviours. Then we will know what and how we need to improve ourselves.

It is said that every one may love one or two wrong person before he or she can find the right one, maybe it provides some opportunities to find oneself in the wrong stages.

So, try to find yourself, listen to your heart, even though it is usually on the left side, it is always right.

You are stronger than your challenges and your challenges are making you stronger.

你比你面对的挑战更强大，而这些挑战让你变得更坚强。

Every time when I run into new challenges, I feel less confident in my capabilities and my strength, whether they are competent to handle these challenges?

I think too more on what it would be if I fail than what I would get through the process.

Maybe I have failed too many times, even all the time, I am so afraid of experiencing failure once more, that would be so terrible feelings.

However, life is always ridiculous, or it may love to making mischief on me, the more I fear, the more likely it would happen.

So, I desperately expect that I can face challengs bravely and hold more confidence in myself.

I desperately expect I can win for once, maybe I can become stronger and more powerful if I can have a win.