WPF，通过修改dataGrid的cell的style，改变选中行失去焦点时的颜色 4.0可用

        <Style  TargetType="{x:Type DataGridCell}">
            <Style.Triggers>
                <Trigger  Property="IsSelected" Value="true">
                    <Setter Property="Background" Value="{DynamicResource {x:Static SystemColors.HighlightBrushKey}}" />
                    <Setter Property="Foreground" Value="{DynamicResource {x:Static SystemColors.HighlightTextBrushKey}}" />
                    <Setter Property="BorderBrush" Value="{DynamicResource {x:Static SystemColors.HighlightBrushKey}}" />
                </Trigger>
                <MultiDataTrigger>
                    <MultiDataTrigger.Conditions>
                        <Condition Binding="{Binding IsSelected, RelativeSource={RelativeSource Self}}" Value="True" />
                        <Condition Binding="{Binding IsKeyboardFocusWithin, RelativeSource={RelativeSource AncestorType={x:Type DataGrid}, Mode=FindAncestor}}" Value="False" />
                    </MultiDataTrigger.Conditions>
                    <Setter Property="Background" Value="{DynamicResource {x:Static SystemColors.HighlightBrushKey}}" />
                    <Setter Property="Foreground" Value="{DynamicResource {x:Static SystemColors.HighlightTextBrushKey}}" />
                    <Setter Property="BorderBrush" Value="{DynamicResource {x:Static SystemColors.HighlightBrushKey}}" />
                </MultiDataTrigger>
            </Style.Triggers>
        </Style>